You can feel as if you are being pulled in different directions. You want to go out and have fun with your friends, but you want to be with your partner too. Spending time with your partner should not feel like a chore. But if every time you want to go out with your friends it causes an argument with your partner, you may come to resent the time spent with him.

Do not see a full time relationship with your partner as oppression. You can have the best of both worlds. You can still go out and have fun with your friends and also have fun with your partner. As well as having someone to go home to and share things with. Something single people hanker for.

You need to strike a balance in your relationship. Have one or two nights a week when you both go out with your friends. Then it will not mean one of you is home alone resenting the other going out. Then there will be less chance of an argument. You can have fun with them the next night. It does a relationship good to spend some time apart; you appreciate time with each other much more.

But maybe especially when you have first moved in with your partner you feel that you do not really fit in with your friends any more. They want you to go out with them and have fun. If you keep turning them down they say you are no fun any more. You are fun. But they need to understand you have different priorities now. Yes you still want fun with them, but to be honest if they are out looking for guys then that is not what you want because you have already found yours. So if that is what they are interested in you are not, make it clear to them you are happy with your boyfriend and not looking for that sort of fun.

You can all still have fun that does not involve meeting guys. It may even be a nice change for them! You can have an agreement that when they go out with you and other attached friends it is guy free. The single ones can have pulling nights when you are not with them. This will stop any bad feelings and falling out. And of course any misunderstandings with your boyfriend.

They say you have changed. Yes you have. Because your life has changed. When you move in with your boyfriend you have different priorities and responsibilities, house, bills, getting used to living together, house work, shopping. You may look at your friends and see them as immature, whatever age they are.

They may get at you for wanting to be with your partner more than them, but the fact is most of them are really jealous of you because you have what they really want. It looks fun in a different bar every night meeting different guys, but why do most of them do it? To meet the one. To be like you and to have what you have.

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