As men, we are put under alot of pressure in terms of how we perform as lovers. The media put in more pressure by showing us statistics on the huge percentages of women that find it difficult to achieve orgasms. 

In addition to that, men also have to measure up against main stream movie stars who seem to effortlessly give their partner mind blowing great sex. 

Lastly, to complicate this stressed situation, you are also obliged to give your partner multiple orgasms. g-spot orgasms, a-spot orgasms, clitoral orgasms and blended orgasms.

Techniques Don’t Always Work

Though there are many great guides out there that teach us techniques of cunnilingus, many men are rudely surprise that these techniques don’t normally work out as well as it should. This make them more stress and soon, the whole episode turns into a nightmare. 

But, before you think of giving up becoming a masterful lover, take a deep breath, relax and clear your mind. You are about to learn that being a great lover is more than just technique.

Techniques does play a part in helping your partner achieve powerful orgasms but only if you approach it with a right mindset. 

What is the right mindset?

So putting so much pressure on yourself in bed, have fun. After all, who would want something as enjoyable as sex to turn into a chore, or worse, a science project?

You are not going to be the only one that will be affected with the stress that is induced by this type of pressure. Your partner will notice how stress you are and eventually it will affect her performance in bed as well. 

The last thing you want is for your lover to think that she is letting you down by not reaching orgasms. She is then obliged to do anything in her power in order to make you happy, even to the extend of having to lie by faking an organsm. Ultimately, you will learn nothing and she will gain nothing. 

Appoarch your love-making session with humor. Learn to laugh at yourself and the situation if it doesn’t go as planned. This will keep the atmosphere in the room relax and fun. Most importantly, it will help you keep the doors of communication wide open. 

Communicate Openly

After you can communicate openly and in a relax manner with your partner, everything then will start to make sense. Have the right appoarch and mindset will also make the task of learning new cunnilingus easier. You will better learn how to apply these techniques because of the relax manner you and your partner are able to communicate. 
You will realize that every woman will have different wants and needs when it comes to sex. You will also realize that it takes time to truly learn your lover. Most importantly, you will realize that there really is no hurry, because both of you are having fun.