As humans, we are all, to some extent, nostalgic about the past. It’s hard to forget good memories and sometimes we wish that things will go back to the way they once were. The same applies for love too. On hindsight, it seems stupid that we ever let our ex girlfriends go, since she is so nice and understanding etc. This remorse gives rise to the selective amnesia we experience, which enables us to remember only the great times we had together and forget about the times we argued and eventually broke off.

A possible reason why we want our ex back is that the chemistry between you two is so strong that you cannot find someone whom you “click” so much with anymore. It can also be that the person is someone who touched your life so much and so deeply that you just couldn’t forget about her, no matter how you try. We are afraid that that may be our last shot at happiness and we end up blotching it.

An important thing to note here is that you must not want back the relationship purely because you are desperate or fearful. A relationship built on that basis cannot last and you will be bringing even more pain to both yourself and your ex. If you are genuinely enthusiastic about the future that you two can have together, then there is hope yet!

With the advancement of technology, the internet and social networking sites, it is easy to find your old flame again. You can search for her online and try to rekindle the relationship. It’s usually not as hard as getting to know a new person again since the foundation is all there. Tell her you changed; you still miss her and get her to agree to a date. Then, if the feelings are still there, you two can get together again, hopefully with a different ending this time!