Here’s a typical story: a woman has been dating a guy for years, and she feel that he is the one for her and would like to marry him as soon as possible. The man, not having the same thoughts, ignores her hints of marriage. Then the woman had enough and decided to declare her desire or marriage. The man got freaked out and runs away.

Sad ending. And this could happen to anyone. Clearly it is a dead end; the relationship will not go anywhere, at least in the short run. The two simple has different plans, or lack of it, and therefore cannot go the same direction. Then, what should be done.

Just after the relationship has become very mature, it is time to communicate what you want from the relationship. Do not wait until too late because women typically has shorter youth than men. Make it clear to him that you want commitment and within what time frames. Next would be the moment. Its either stay or break from there. And that is hearing is opinions on the same issue. If he thinks like you, that’s great. If his views slightly differ; it’s ok because you can try to talk to him again on the same issue. Give yourself a set amount of time to change his views, at the same time making him love you more. Set a time limit for this, for example, three months. After that, you are out. Of course, if his ideas are radically different from yours, break off immediately.

Perhaps this will be very painful but you have to think in the great scheme of things. This is your life and if that special someone is not leading you to where you want it, you are simply wasting your life. So, be calm and do not be afraid to say what you want, do not hold back on your words. If you feel you have top give each other some time, go ahead. At the end of it, remember that time can be saved if you make an important decision that can be delayed no more. Do not think emotionally, think logically instead.