Arguments over trivial matters is common among people. The victory from the fiery discourse serves as a humiliation to the losing party. If this continues, it will spiral into a relationship you will never want to have.

Organizations can be, and have been, built using words together with psychological manipulation. Neuro-linguistic programming skills may be used to reach such an end, using them in communication, especially face to face, eye to eye contact. The person at the receiving end of such manipulation may find it hard to escape from such “sorcery”. In fact, he or she may never know such “skills” are being used.

It may not be a good thing that the other person knows nearly all about you: Your strengths and weakness, likes and dislikes, aspirations and fears. Verbal abusers like to step on another’s self-esteem and make the victim feel rotten. And knowing the key to your weakness will help in that. This is a bad way of using knowledge and putting them to words.

Relationships between two persons is like a exchange. Give and take but do not keep score. We do not have to count who is giving more and who is taking more. It is not logical because a relationship is not a business. Give respect, and acknowledge that everyone needs them. Give a moment to think things through, for even sages make mistakes. Offer sincere apologies if it is due.

Share this knowledge with others, so that mutual benefit is attained.Hardly anything compares to a fruitful and enjoyable relationship. If the other person still will not reflect upon oneself, consider what you can do to this failing relationship. Will trying your best be better? Or giving everything up and look for another? Time and sincere effort can change a person, so it will ultimately depend on your mental stamina to improve the other person. It will be easier to change someone you like than to hook up with someone you do not like yet.

Understand that in a relationship, there is no better parties, but each a contributing factor to a growing bond.