Nothing can be more frustrating than being in a relationship for a long time and never talk about marriage. if your man won’t commit, you might start to think if you are wasting your time. Although it is true that a lasting relationship may not need to include marriage, but if you are looking forward to having kids, or a stronger bond can be created through marriage, then a trip to the altar is something you need to do. Men often tells you that there is nothing you can do to change the mind of a commitment phobic. That isn’t always true. There is always something you can do to make a man suddenly decide he wants to marry you.

If your man don’t commit, the very last thing you need to do is to nag at him. A man won’t simply decide he wants to marry the woman he love because she keep going on and on about it. In fact, your constant nagging make him more convince in his decision of not marrying you. One of the best thing any woman can do to make a man commit is to stop bringing the subject up. Men expect to be bombarded by questions on where his relationship is headed. If you don’t bring the subject up, he will be thinking more and more about it.

Another great approach to take if your man doesn’t commit is to make yourself less accessible. One of the issues of long term relationship where there seem to be no commitment is how woman seem to be available. When a woman is always available and willing to adapt to meet her boyfriend’s schedule she’s silently telling him that his needs are more important than hers.

A great test of a man’s true feelings is to make yourself scarce for a few days or weeks. Plan a trip with your girlfriend and when you are out of town, try not to contact your man too often. You want to create a senario where he will start missing you when you are away. It’s that longing to see you that will push him to want to be together with you permanently.

So start testing your man and get him committed.

Do you have any insights to share? Feel free to leave  a comment or two. Happy relationship!

I have written on 12 romantic things you can do to let your man know you love him. Now, its time for him to reciprocate. Here are 7 proven ways to make your man more romantic from now on.

1) Pick a time, probably after making love, and tell him that you want him to be more romantic in the future. it sounds dumb I know but why go around circles when you can just go direct? If he loves you and want you to be happy, he will seriously consider to be more romantic in future, for you.

2) reward him when he does something romantic. If he sent flowers gush over them and how thoughtful he is. men like to be told they have done well, and when you give them something special after they done something you like, they will continue to do it. That’s why they say men are like dogs – in a good way.

3) Send him a challenger. Point out what romantic things other guys are doing and see what happens. if you give them another man to compete with, they will constantly strive to outdo the other guy.  Point out how amazingly romantic your friend’s boyfriend is, but don’t overdo it or he will get annoyed.

4) Do romantic things for him. Once he sees that you’re going out of your way to be romantic towards him, he will feel the urge to reciprocate.

5) Set up a romantic dinner each week. Once he have gone into the habit of doing romantic things like having a candle lit dinner, he will do it on his own without your supervision. But first, you must let him know your vision of romance.

6) Rent some romantic videos and point out what those men are doing that are romantic. Don’t have to get him to do the exact same thing but subtly point them out. he will eventually get your hint and start treating your romantically.

7) Convince him that being romantic does not make him any less of a man. Some guys think being romantic is not manly and isn’t something they want their friends to know about. Let him know that he doesn’t have to tell the guys he brought you flowers and took a bubble bath with you.

More often in the world of relationships, it is the men who cheat, rather than the fairer sex. Due to several factors, men are much more likely to cheat than women, and prevention is better than cure. Sometimes when he begins cheating, there will be no “cure”. So take actions quickly to prevent cheating from ever happening.

Men can find excuses to cheat if they like, so examine the different factors that may lead them to cheat. The most common excuse is lack of understanding, or rather communication. It seems that the “other woman” always communicate better. They know how to encourage and show support more than the wife or the current girlfriend. Perhaps the woman should try to understand the man’s point of view in any argument. In any argument, seek to understand, not to win. The voice must not be raised, just speak softly say what you feel. Even if he raises his voice, speak softly; he may realize how gentle and gracious you are. Understanding each others leads for a stronger bond, and if the bond is cherished, the man will never cheat on her. Remember men will prefer “gentle” over “strong” every time.

In most cases, men are more confident than women. Sometimes that confidence grows too much that he believe he can have more than one woman. The law does not prohibit him form having 2 girlfriends either. This will be especially likely if he is financially sound or even rich. Being rich has 2 effects: The first is he will develop great confidence. The second is that girls will flock to him. Since ancient times, women have been looking for rich men to marry.

Sex life is another factor to consider. When a man find that he does not have sex as frequently as he likes, his mind begins to wonder and look for other girls to have sex with. It is not the “quality” of sex that matters; it’s the frequency that he is concerned with. So do not reject the requests too many times. But do remember it’s a mutual pleasure, so if you really do not feel like it, voice it out and let him understand. Explanation works much better than excuses.

The last factor would be one that can be best described as “herd mentality”. Perhaps one of his friends is double-timing and he tells your man how much fun and exciting it is and how much he is enjoying himself. Bad company is one of the reasons many men go bad. This is sort of situation you can help, for men are very loyal to their friends and your disapproval of his friend will be met with anger.

The best way to avoid all these is to understand each other well. When love is very strong, he will only have you, and cheating will not be found in his dictionary.

Six Things Men Wish They Could Tell Women
What would be revealed if a man felt the freedom to be totally open and honest? Here’s a start.

It’s a vexing issue that has plagued humankind–or at least womankind–for millennia: What really goes on in the mind of a man? What exactly is he thinking?

These questions probably first came up in the Garden of Eden, when Adam blamed Eve for eating the apple and getting them evicted from Paradise. “What was he thinking?!” she likely asked. And women have been asking the same question ever since.

While it would take volumes to cover everything men want to tell women, here are six of the most prevalent things:

“I am not afraid of commitment—I just need to be very, very sure.” It turns out that all this business about men being commitment-phobic is mostly myth. A recent study chronicled in USA Today ran with the headline, “Not so afraid to commit after all.” The lead paragraph read, “Men are more likely than women to prefer marriage over lifelong singlehood and in many ways are as interested in serious family relationships as women, according to a new study.” In the survey—which included 12,000 men and women ages 15-44—respondents were asked, “It is better to get married than go through life single?” The results: 66 percent of men agreed compared with 51 percent of women. Set aside presumptions and preconceived ideas about men and commitment. If a fabulous woman came along, most men would be thoroughly delighted to commit for a lifetime.

“Yes, I have feelings. It’s just challenging to express them.” Men are often characterized as insensitive, unemotional, and oblivious to anything a millimeter below the surface. That may be true for some men, but emphatically not true for most. The fact is, our society encourages men to suppress their feelings, holding up as the role model for manhood the strong, silent type. More personally, most guys didn’t grow up with a father who understood his emotions and knew how to express them. Wise women know that men have lots of feelings—and allow lots of space to process them and lots of grace in figuring out how to verbalize them.

“Of course I have testosterone coursing through my body, but that doesn’t mean I’m a sex-crazed maniac.” The caricature of an average guy is this: He is so overpowered by his sex drive that he can’t possibly put his overheated passions in neutral for even a moment. Yes, there are some men who think about sex every second of every day. But most men—and this may come as a surprise to you women—consider sex as something that should happen at the right time, under the right circumstances, and absolutely with the right person. In our diverse and open-minded society, lots of people have different perspectives about how and when sex should occur. The point here is to debunk a prevailing cultural myth: not every man is a raving sexaholic. Most men would say this: “You’re darn right I’m interested in sex, but don’t stereotype me as a slobbering Neanderthal who is powerless to control his urges.”

“Everything you’ve heard about the male ego? Yep, it’s true.” Think of a man’s ego like a balloon that can be gradually inflated, carefully deflated, or burst with one quick strike of a needle. The first two options are acceptable; the last one usually ends very badly. No man wants to admit it, but a strike to the ego may as well be a gunshot to the heart. It can be fatal—at least to relationships. If a woman wants to woo and win a man, she will have to become an ego aficionado. She’s got to learn how to bolster her man’s self-esteem while, when necessary, speak the truth in love—very gently.

“I need freedom and independence, and I’m afraid you’re going to become my prison warden.” Men fear being trapped, stuck, penned in. This has to do with the whole commitment-phobia thing—most guys keep one eye on the exit door until they’re sure, absolutely sure, this is the woman they want to settle down with. And that woman usually has become skilled at knowing how to hold proper boundaries while letting her man enjoy his independence. Wise women give their partner ample space, before and after marriage.

“I want to be able to discuss my desires, concerns, and opinions without fearing an emotional reaction of hurricane proportions.” Men have lots of things they would like to say to their partner, but they often hesitate and hold back. Why? The potential emotional onslaught! If a man wants to express his opinion about his partner’s unflattering outfit, her lack of organizational skills, or (gulp) the ten pounds she recently put on, he’s likely to worry about the response he’ll receive. You may have noticed that most women are quite emotive, and many react strongly to perceived criticism—even if the man in her life does not intend it as criticism. It’s true that some men could use a lesson in tact and discernment when conveying their opinions on sensitive issues. But it’s also true that many men would be more willing to share their thoughts if they knew doing so wouldn’t prompt a nuclear explosion.

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If only we could read minds, relationships would be so much easier! Since that’s not an option, here’s the next best thing.

You probably remember the 2000 film “What Women Want,” which featured Mel Gibson as an egotistical advertising big shot who has a fluke accident that allows him to hear women’s thoughts. Through a series of mishaps and misadventures, he discovers that his previous presumptions about the female gender were completely off base.

Whether you thought the movie was corny or compelling, it certainly highlighted a universal question between members of the opposite sex: What really goes on in his/her head? Is it possible to bridge the gender gap and gain genuine understanding?

Many men feel bewildered when it comes to understanding women. At the same time, women feel bewildered, too, wondering why men find them so complex. As one woman explained, “It’s not rocket science. Women are a lot easier to understand than men let on.”

“I long to feel cherished, pursued, and known.” What makes a woman feel cherished? Or pursued? Or known? Unfortunately, as many men have discovered, what makes one woman feel cherished might not be important to another woman. Or what makes one woman feel pursued might make a different woman feel stalked. Therein lies the challenge — and the thrill. Discovering what these words mean to a particular woman — and figuring out how to act on them — is a rewarding adventure that can energize and solidify a budding relationship.

“When I feel cherished, pursued, and known, I want to be close to you… in every way.” You’ve heard this before because it’s so true: For women, physical intimacy is a natural outgrowth of emotional intimacy. This doesn’t mean women won’t agree to physical intimacy in the absence of emotional intimacy. But sometimes, physical intimacy that takes place out of the context of emotional intimacy wounds a woman’s spirit and, ultimately can damage the relationship.

“I want to be treated like a lady, not like one of the guys.” Women want to be reassured by their man that chivalry is not dead, that there are still gentlemen in the world who know how to treat a woman with honor and dignity. Some men feel awkward and old-fashioned when it comes to using proper etiquette. But good manners tangibly demonstrate respect for the female recipient. Behaving like a gentleman says to a woman, “You are special and worthy of my best efforts.”

“The power of life and death is in your words.” A biblical proverb offers this counsel: “Wise words satisfy like a good meal; the right words bring satisfaction. Life and death are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (Proverbs 18:20-21). How many relationships have been destroyed because of critical or deceitful words? Countless! If a wise man chooses wise words, he will enhance his relationship and enchant his woman.

“I can forgive, but I may have trouble forgetting.” While on the topic of using wise words, the unwise kind (sarcastic comments about a woman’s weight, put-downs about faults, comparisons to past girlfriends or even mother) are like a stab in the heart. You can’t take back words just by saying “I didn’t mean it” or “I was just kidding.” The person on the receiving end has to live with the pain and the damage of that wound for a long time.

“It matters to me that you love yourself.” Few things are as attractive to a woman as a man who is self-confident, secure, and assured. Conversely, insecurity has a way of spreading like a massive oil spill, oozing toxic gunk on anyone and anything in its path. If a man is dissatisfied, unsure, or critical, how can he be kind, uplifting, and supportive with the woman in his life? It’s impossible to engage in a healthy relationship with someone else if you don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself.

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Getting a woman craving for you can be a really tall order. Observing from afar, it can be baffling in terms of what would make a woman get fascinated by a specific kind of man. Some guys believe that you need to have a nice sculptured body, a bulging bank account or the looks of Richard Gere in order to create desire in women. Seeing things like this will not improve your position.

You might be astonished to know what really draws a womans attention. On the other hand, this does provide some optimisim that women are not all after material things. Let us look at some dating secrets which will appeal to you.

1. In order for a woman to pine for you, she needs to be on a similar level as you. If you fall into the trap of seeing her as a goddess and you as a helpless being, you will be in a tough spot from the word go and it will be impossible to then see her for who she is. Just understand that she is similar to you, and you do not have to be overawed by her.

2. Women need to feel excited being with you in order to pine for you. This applies to both sides, as it gives you a morale boost and creates a feel good feeling. You do not want to come across as someone who will bore her stiff, as this will drive her away from you.

3. You need to keep her continuously guessing what you will do next for her to be eager to meet you next. When you act like most other men, who do the same old routine of dinner, movies and then hope for the best that she will be impressed enough to want to go back to their home. There will be no longing from her to next meet with you. Figure out something unique, which can be skiing or toboganning.

Try to incorporate the above dating advice for men into your next date, and you might start seeing her crave more for you.

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For quite a long time now or since far off times, many girls have been starting on that search towards the evasive ‘Mr. Right’. But how do you lady know if she is succeeding on the turf of dating or if she is typically hazarding her safety? Here are tactics to find out whether a lady is making the most out of her dating life without making her safety suffer. Hear your heart. If intuition tells one that she’s not striking a string with a certain main, she should follow her stomach feel and dump the man, gradually that is. Dating isn’t about jumping on each person that shows interest. Settling for something less isn’t that good of a choice. Trust yourself. This goes with the stomach feel recommendation. If the person appears too fantastic to be true, probabilities are, he actually isn’t good for you. Do not be misled by saccharine guarantees. Learn how to psychoanalyze a bit. Doing some background probe certainly will not hurt.

Feel the earth move under your feet. Nope, I am not making you dance or something similar to that. What I’m trying to say is keep your self grounded. Do not be swept off by the giddy feeling all too all of a sudden. Taking things in walk will protect you from being hurt if the man or woman isn’t really what you were expecting her or him to be.

Single dating isn’t carried out like an overnight success. Be consciously wary. Never capitulate to peer pressure. If your sharers know about your internet dating escapade and are letting you know to single out someone that you suspect doesn’t make the cut, you know, your standards, don’t be affected by them.

If they need that man, they can have him, right? Single dating isn’t meant to be the choice of the group, allegedly. Being too desperate over a relationship will spoil the joys of single dating life. If you go against that whining but ‘healthy’ recommendation of your instinct that you are overdoing your dealings with your partner and you better stop it or else, it’ll be your loss, truly. As an example, you came to the point that you are relationship is preparing to end, in brief you are getting dumped, but you are still doing too many things to patch things up, that is obviously being desperate. Single dating is just single dating. If you thought about him as the future dad of your babies but you’re merely a fling for him, for Pete’s sake, manifestly you are not in the same ship. Get out of that relationship, fast! If all of the while you have been aiming at that long term relationship, here are few fool-proof tips about how to spot who’s NOT the person. First, he is excessively untrustworthy. Then, guarantees to call you but he will not. Lastly, he doesn’t let you in his intimate bunch of friends.

He never spouts anything about your future together four. He rushes you into his bed. With those to mind, and you armored with presence of mind and a wary but not paranoid approach, you will be well set off for the goodies of single dating. Go get him swooning over you!

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What have women got that men just can’t stop going crazy over them? Is it because of love or lust? What makes those two diverge? At the early age of puberty, men feels fascinated to women. They have the penchant also to be attracted to older girls even at the age of 7. This is because older girls are a lot sexier and attractive. It looks they see their mother in older girls. Younger men feel pampered by older women. Older women tend to understand younger men more particularly in their mood. But as they grow older, men love women younger than them or at their age.

How can you actually define love or differentiate love from lust? Is it love that men felt when they spot a woman and feel something? Well I could declare that it would take time to finally conclude that what he or she feels is already that issue called love.

Love is past physical, it is something you can’t touch. When you can forgive and forget what a person has caused you, then that is love.

Lust, on the other hand is still an feeling that is merely physical.This is linked with the feeling of craving a person sexually but oftentimes leads to Love and wanting to impart something beyond physical.

You can say you really love a person if in a longer span of time, you remain fascinated to him or her physically and later on turned into something sensitively distinctive.

Steps to draw men:

1) Fill up your love tank- love the people surrounding you, welcome their decency, love yourself. Men are more fascinated to women who illustrate that they are to be respected and valued. Friends can help particularly affectionate and wonderful friends. It will present in your well-being if you are full of love and when you are full of love, you can love others already.
2) Cook up Love – Be the master of the kitchen and attract your man through his stomach.
3) Be yourself – While men loves being pursued, most men still love to chase women. Shine in other things so he would perceive you; for example if he is a school mate then excel in the classroom. If he is a neighbor who doesn’t even give a look, then start by giving the mother some new recipes to cook. Act as if he’s not your goal and let him target you instead.

Men are born polygamous and they tend to glance elsewhere and this is extremely important when looking for a mate. We don’t know for sure how to keep his attention unless of course if he really loves you that much not to consider hurting your feelings. You have to take the chance, for it might be precious in the end and anyway life is a risk you have to take and that incorporates loving someone.

Men have crabbiness too that need women to shut up so it is important to know the nature of men. Listen and don’t nag but be sharp in studying the thin line that separates listening and enabling your partner to fool you. Solving troubles in a relationship is in the hands of a woman. It is hard for women to keep their men and keep them interested with them all the time. Keep you man enthralled with you through these steps:

1) The center of a relationship should be reliance.Faith and trust must at all times be present.

1) CREATE MOMENTS TOGETHER. Typically men do this; out of the blue men would propped a date in some passionate place just for two; a candlelight dinner, with a music in the background or may be a little bit offhand as just walking in Manila Bay at sunset, a picnic at the Park or in the Zoo, for those of smaller budget, but whatever it is what is important is that you make some moments together, because that is what life is all about.

2) Share your dreams and aspirations to your loved one. Your relationship does not consist of you alone so when it comes to your thoughts and aspirations, see if it fits with his. How close or far apart, similar or conflicting are your dreams and his dreams, then you’ll know if you are to go on this relationship or not. Never give up a dream just to satisfy your partner’s emotional insecurities as this will be the cause of the potential breakdown of your relationship in the end.

3) DON’T NAG. Learn to listen to your partner’s side and don’t be a faultfinder. Your relationship must have trust in order to have future. Nurture and win trust instead of abusing it.

4) Be a friend first and became lovers later on. Lovers should only be second from friendship to make it continue longer.

Women fascinates men who knows how to handle themselves. Women that can encourage and comfort a man in times of sorrow.In a relationship, man should not be the only one who’s strong. In fact, when it comes to feelings, women are stronger. That is fairly obvious. For more advices how to deal with men or women relationship visit http://women-men-love.info they sure have lots of thoughts to ascertain from.

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May 10, 20103 Myths That Men Have About WomenBy: Andrea Syrtash, Author of the Upcoming Book “He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s a Good Thing)”

I’ve never believed in hard and fast rules in dating (or in life, for that matter) — just smart strategies.There are some dating ‘rules’ floating out there that may actually get you into trouble! Based on interviews I’ve conducted with single women, here are a few of the rules that we wish men would forget:

Myth #1 – If you like a woman, wait three days to call her.

Swingers was a classic 1990s movie, but almost two decades later we’re still quoting Vince Vaughn’s character who confidently proclaimed, “Yeah, two (days) is enough not to look anxious. But I think three days is kind of money.” when referring to how many days should pass before a guy should follow up with a gal he likes.  It’s time to ditch the three day rule! If you like a woman and have a great date, call her and ask her out for another one before 72 hours pass. Women these days lead dynamic and busy lives, and most (the ones you want to date, anyway) are not waiting around for you to get back in touch.

One of the biggest dating mistakes women say that men make is that they don’t take enough initiative. If you like a woman and want to invite her out again, waiting a few days to call may actually cost you a future date.  And on that note, most women report that they would prefer an old-fashioned telephone call rather than a text message when asking them out. (A rule Swingers certainly couldn’t address in 1996!)

Myth #2 Women are only interested in guys with lots of money, over six feet tall and who add up perfectly on paper.

Some women may say they want a guy who conforms to a certain superficial checklist, but I have extensive research to support the fact that we ladies fall in love more emotionally than even we realize!  A man who is thoughtful, smart, funny and charismatic who doesn’t have a ‘great’ job or look like a leading man has a great shot at finding love with a fabulous woman.  Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities that anybody can have, regardless of his stats or resume – but don’t confuse confidence with cockiness. Which leads me to the last myth…

 Myth #3 Nice Guys Finish Last.

When people say that nice guys finish last what they really mean is that boring ones do. Nice and boring are not synonymous! Nobody wants to date a doormat with no opinions of his own but few self-respecting women want to be with a man who is not nice. 

Kindness is consistently ranked as one of the top qualities people look for in a mate. Don’t be fooled into thinking you have to be a jerk to attract a woman. The reality is that if you act like a jerk to get a woman’s interest, you will attract someone who is insecure or someone who you may eventually lose respect for. (There’s nothing worse than treating someone badly and seeing her come back for more.)  Women love kind men. You can be nice and bold. You can listen well and take initiative. None of these qualities are mutually exclusive. In fact, pairing confidence with sensitivity is extremely sexy.

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