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		<title>Do We Over Think Relationships?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Jan 2011 20:19:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sandra Christian</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Does more knowledge on a subject always lead to better results? What about couples who have been married 50 years, 60 years and more? They came up in a time when the knowledge about healthy relationships was limited. Are they just lucky? What do you think? The number one song of the year was “Sweet [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><P>Does more knowledge on a subject always lead to better results? What about couples who have been married 50 years, 60 years and more? They came up in a time when the knowledge about healthy relationships was limited. Are they just lucky? What do you think?</P><br />
<P>The number one song of the year was “Sweet Georgia Brown”. Charlie Chaplin ruled the box office, and F. Scott Fitzgerald published “The Great Gatsby”. It was the age of Al Capone and Louis Armstrong. A first-class stamp cost $.02. It was 1925.</P><br />
<P>It was also the year that 18-year-old Clarence Vail proposed to his 16-year-old sweetheart Mayme. They married in Hugo, Minnesota and have stayed that way for 83 years as reported by MSNBC.com. Their secret? They have no secret! “I guess you just stick to it, come what may,” Mayme says. </P><br />
<P>They’ve lasted through a world war, a depression, six children, various health challenges; and Mayme points out that they haven’t had an argument since 1946.</P><br />
<P>A conversation with a couple like the Vail’s on the keys to a long lasting relationship can be pretty dissatisfying because they have so little to share on the subject. It’s almost like they got married, and never gave the relationship another thought. Could that be the secret to their long relationship?</P><br />
<P>There’s no question that the volume of self-analysis and discussion surrounding relationships has increased exponentially in the past 50 years. An entire industry of books, coaches, websites, and matchmakers have grown up around the idea of finding a mate and building a satisfying relationship. How did so many couples with so few tools or, frankly, knowledge about what makes two people good together consistently forge relationships that lasted 50 years or more?</P><br />
<P>Here are 2 theories:</P><br />
<P><STRONG>They expected far less from their primary relationship</STRONG></P><br />
<P>It could be that expectations were much lower for what a marital relationship was supposed to provide. You got married. You had children. He worked. She stayed home. He socialized with his male co-workers. She joined a social club to fill her days. The rules were rigid and so seemingly impervious to change that it never occurred to either person to question the nature of their interaction.</P><br />
<P>Perhaps couples then had a clearer and simpler set of needs for their marriage. They wanted financial security, intimacy, a pleasant home and the rest – the rest was a nice to have, but not missed.</P><br />
<P>It does seem that today we expect our mates to fill a vast number of roles – companion, lover, intellectual sounding board, partner in crime, co-parent, business partner, etc. We set a standard that is so high that over time most people disappoint in one way or another. If a man is an excellent provider, father, and playmate but a terrible communicator and empathizer it can spell doom for a relationship. If the woman is a great mom, kind, and a tremendous support in tough times, but perhaps not a fun-loving or energetic mate it can create tension and disappointment.</P><br />
<P>Is it unrealistic to pile so many expectations on one person; and does it have a negative impact on maintaining a long term relationship?</P><br />
<P><STRONG>They had fewer options and just toughed it out.</STRONG></P><br />
<P>One of my paternal great-grandfathers was a farmer in Mississippi at the turn of the 20th century. After bearing five healthy children his wife died during child birth with their sixth. He was heartbroken for sure, but the needs of tending a farm and raising six children left no time for grieving. He promptly split the children up and loaned them out to different relatives. He made his way to the nearest town, got a room in the local boarding house and started searching for a wife. </P><br />
<P>He found my great-grandmother in a Baptist church and launched into a courtship that can best be described as business-like. She accepted – a home, a family, and his love. They went back to the farm, rounded up the children, lived happily ever after and went on to have five more kids of their own.</P><br />
<P>Is that the key to the longevity of older relationships? Were they just trapped together? We know that economic opportunities for women were limited. Not to mention the extreme stigma of being divorced. In the case of my great-grandfather, he simply couldn’t run the farm without a woman to cook the meals, tend the children, and do dozens of other vital jobs.</P><br />
<P>Did these cultural and economic barriers force marriages that were solid on the outside and miserable on the inside? Did years of working and living side by side take relationships of necessity and create real love? Should we celebrate our modern less-permanent long-term relationships because they give people the freedom to leave dysfunctional marriages? </P><br />
<P>It’s a question that can be asked in many areas of modern life. For all our knowledge, research and discussion are we really any better off? Does knowing more about relationships make them easier to keep and maintain, or more daunting?</P><br />
<P>We’d love to hear your thoughts</P><br />
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		<title>Abusive Relationships</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jan 2011 06:40:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sandra Christian</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p> <P>Abusive Relationships<BR>By Eharmony<BR>Singles should be aware of potential dangers if a partner starts crossing boundaries</P><P><STRONG>Abusive Relationships:</STRONG><BR>The beginning of the end started with a pointed finger jabbed into Rita’s shoulder. It was just forceful enough to knock her off balance and leave a slight bruise … but not a huge deal, right? Wrong! </P><P>Rita had been dating Mitch for a year and a half. The Dallas couple had begun their relationship with strong attraction, intense feelings, and high expectations. Mitch was a guy his friends would describe as “high strung.” He was known to get into shouting matches when discussing the latest Cowboys’ loss, and he sometimes blew his cool during fiercely contested racquetball matches. No doubt, he was hot-blooded, passionate, and emotive. Which was one thing Rita liked about him initially — he wasn’t afraid to express his feelings toward her and make a big show of how much he loved her. But as the months went by, it became more and more evident that Mitch had a hard time controlling the emotions he felt so strongly.</P><BR><IMG height=250 alt="" src="C:\Program Files\CartyStudios Corporation\WebMagnates - Auto Blogging Software\data\MindChic\The Relationship Blog\" width=300 border=0><P>As their relationship settled into a predictable routine — and the ecstatic feelings of new love wore off — Mitch had begun to yell at Rita over minor mistakes. Discussions became heated debates. Soon he started regularly lobbing verbal hand grenades — putdowns, sarcastic remarks, belittling names. And then came that finger jab into Rita’s shoulder, and she knew their relationship had crossed an unfortunate threshold. It wasn’t much longer before she gently broke the news to Mitch — their relationship was over. A nasty break-up, to be sure, with accusations and threats by Mitch, but Rita stuck to her decision while being cautious to protect herself in the process. </P><P>How did Rita find the courage to end the relationship when it started to go sour — and abusive? She explains: “I’d had friends who got entangled in toxic dating relationships where they ended up being physically abused — slapped and punched by their boyfriends,” she said. “I knew that once a relationship started heading in that destructive direction, there’s little chance it will turn around. Once the red flags begin showing up, it’s best to get out and move on as quickly as possible.” </P><P>This problem is more widespread than we’d all like to admit. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, from 25 to 50 percent of all women in heterosexual relationships are abused in some way. When we hear the words “abusive relationships,” our minds immediately go to the most obvious and apparent forms — physical or sexual assault. But there is a continuum of abusive behavior that ranges from subtle to obvious. Emotional abuse can be as damaging as physical abuse, though it is often harder to recognize. This kind of “covert warfare” causes self-esteem problems and psychological damage. And this situation certainly is not unique to women — men are also the victims of abusive relationships as well.</P><P>Further, what Rita said was correct: Abusive relationships are almost always progressive — they only get worse over time. Emotional and verbal abuse frequently changes to more overt threats or physical abuse, particularly in times of stress.</P><P>Although it’s impossible to go into detail in this short space, let’s look at several behaviors that qualify as an abusive relationship: </P><P><STRONG>Intimidation.</STRONG> Does your partner make you afraid by using menacing expressions, posture, gestures, and tone of voice? Does he make threats—or even carry them out—to harm you? Does he bully you to get his way? </P><P><STRONG>Belittling.</STRONG> Does your partner put you down or try to make you feel inferior? Does he embarrass you or make fun of you in front of others? </P><P><STRONG>Harassment.</STRONG> Does your partner call or text you excessively? Does he follow you or show up to make sure you are where you said you’d be? </P><P><STRONG>Isolation.</STRONG> Does your partner try to control what you do, where you go, and who you talk to? Does he try to keep you away from certain friends or family members? </P><P><STRONG>Emotional abuse.</STRONG> Does your partner manipulate you or play “mind games”? Does he minimize your feelings, dismiss your complaints, or blame you for all the problems? Does he exhibit “Jekyll-and-Hyde” behavior: nice one moment, nasty the next? </P><P><STRONG>Unwanted sexual advances. </STRONG>Does your partner ever touch you inappropriately? Does he pressure you sexually for things you aren’t ready for? </P><P><STRONG>Physical boundary violations of any kind.</STRONG> Does your partner treat you roughly—grab, shake, push, shove, or hit? Does he restrain you from leaving? </P><P>The bottom line is this: You deserve a healthy, respectful, loving relationship. Refuse to settle for anything less! If you see warning signs that your relationship is turning abusive, then do yourself a huge favor — move on to someone who will treat you with utmost care and kindness. </P><P>For more detailed information about abusive relationships, please see: The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. </P><P>Related posts:</P>Why Do Good Relationships End Up Going Bad?</p>
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		<title>Dating, Relationships, Careers And Fun – Lifestyles Of Singles</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Dec 2010 08:30:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sandra Christian</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[condominiums The singles lifestyle is not as easy and carefree as it appears, and there are hidden dangers all around. Problems such as date rape, STDs and psycho boyfriends. Then there is the bar scene, the club scene and the awkwardness of the same old “sex in the city” routines. All this plus, you must [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><P><STRONG>condominiums</STRONG> The singles lifestyle is not as easy and carefree as it appears, and there are hidden dangers all around. Problems such as date rape, STDs and psycho boyfriends. Then there is the bar scene, the club scene and the awkwardness of the same old “sex in the city” routines. All this plus, you must maintain a job, a place to live and be street wise and careful.</P><br />
<P><STRONG>juegos</STRONG> In my experience, it’s those crappy experiences that make dating worthwhile.</P><br />
<P>That is why I think instead of putting so much stock in the dating process, everyone should relax a little bit. With so much focus on finding the person of your dreams so you can get married and have 2.5 children and a picket fence, it’s easy to forget one of the universal truths of dating: that it sucks.</P><br />
<P><STRONG>fsbo</STRONG> I do believe that there is someone for everyone. I also believe that it will take a lot of dating to find that someone. That means a lot of bad dates. Instead of crying about bad dates, or being upset that it didn’t work out with someone, I think we need to re-evaluate. Bad dates are a good thing: its one more person to take out of the potential marriage pool. It’s another step towards your perfect partner.</P><br />
<P>So your date spent the entire night getting wasted on Jell-o shots. Or you spent an entire dinner sitting with a vegan who stared at you while you ate a delicious steak. Do these situations stink? Sure.</P><br />
<P>One of the best parts of this book and something that I found most intriguing was the incredible ease of use, worksheets and simple explanations. It’s no wonder that Jeff and Carol Cohen are the people go for answers when they want advice on enhancing their lifestyles and love lives.</P><br />
<P>I very much recommend this book and I wish you all the success in the world with your singles lifestyle and love life You can be published without charge. You can to republish this article in your website or blog. Please provide links Active.</P><br />
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		<title>Love and Relationships</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Dec 2010 07:46:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sandra Christian</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Are you in a committed healthy romantic relationship that’s very good for not only you, but equally for the person you love. Love and relationships are to become made for ever, not only a few days. Take a look into getting your life much more enjoyable and purposeful by realizing how to act when it [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p> <BODY readability="2"><P>Are you in a committed healthy romantic relationship that’s very good for not only you, but equally for the person you love. Love and relationships are to become made for ever, not only a few days. Take a look into getting your life much more enjoyable and purposeful by realizing how to act when it comes to those you care most for.</P><P>The greatest thing to do in a romantic relationship is to care for the other person´s needs ahead of your own. Being selfless is the core of what love is all about. If you’re having issues with selfishness you need to deal with them successfully ahead of coming into a marriage or other serious personal relationship. Why pull another individual into your issues? In the event you really desire to help them, you’ll need to put them before yourself. This suggests sacrifice. Selfish individuals aren’t prepared to make sacrifices for other people. If you’re this way, save the individual you claim to adore the painfulness of finding out.</P><P>An additional significant factor of love and relationships will be the neglected virtue of commitment. Society tends to make it difficult for a guy and a lady to maintain the dedication of holy matrimony. Within the United states of america one is actually compelled to fork out much more taxes should you be married than should you just stay together. But what does “staying together” tell society? It tells the world you desire the pleasures and advantages of matrimony with no dedication. Again, this really is selfish. Don’t forget; love isn’t self-centered. Do the right thing. In case you genuinely would like to live for a partner, make an open public commitment of holy matrimony and get the advantages of a clear conscience as well.</P><P>For anyone who is seeking to become married to end your being lonely, this is a self-centered reason. Are you going into a marriage to help make yourself happier? How many individuals are doing this very thing and rendering their lives and the lives of others unpleasant during the process? Love and relationships are created to be mutually satisfying to both persons. If one side starts to have unrealistic expectations, it could be a ticking time bomb of feelings. What will happen when both parties have unrealistic expectations? This really is a formula for failure. When coming into critical personal romantic relationships, it can be very good to have wide open communication channels. You ought to discuss all the expectations you might have plus the other half must do likewise. The word “all” is emphasized in that previous sentence. Money, sex, the long term, kids and any other important topic should be brought out in to the discussion and frankly pointed out. Getting transparent and sincere may be the greatest policy in romance. </P><P>Love and relationships are to be held in high esteem when they’re seen within the bonds of marriage. This partnership will be the bonding fabric of humankind. In case you mess it up, you aren’t doing anybody a favour. About three of five marriages in the Usa are faltering, according to available data. Do not be a contributor of this break down of the social structure. </P><P>In case you are not one to keep your word, especially in marriage, it’s best to keep out of the romantic relationship. Get your life in order. Grow to be the person that others can model their existence around. Later on, enter into a meaningful romantic relationship that makes the other person the object of importance. Be selfless and become happy.</P></p>
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		<title>What You Can Gain From Love Relationships</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Dec 2010 00:24:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sandra Christian</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Love relationships have been termed as very complicated. They are known to make quite a few people sweat. Love is not simple business but, when you get to understand the essence of it, you will not be very worried of having a hard time. What is love and why do we have relationships? It is [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p> <BODY readability="20"><P>Love relationships have been termed as very complicated. They are known to make quite a few people sweat. Love is not simple business but, when you get to understand the essence of it, you will not be very worried of having a hard time. What is love and why do we have relationships? It is pretty difficult to answer this question in a conclusive way but, just like we take water to quench our thirst, we have love and relationships to fulfill our emotional and spiritual thirst. Love is a natural part of all of us and, we cannot hide from this fact. We need relationships not just for fulfillment but, to procreate and dominate the world further. Relationships of love come with very many advantages. The following are the good things that you can gain, when you are in love relationships. First, you will have honored the way of nature. All animals will get into a relationship of some kind because this is their nature. For humans, there is no exception. When you reach a certain age, you will find that all people will be expecting you to transition to the next level. You will then be considered a real person in society.</P><P>Love relationships will bring about companionship and friendship. Life can be too lonely for one person. For this reason, you need to wake up with somebody in your arms. Partnership in relationships will make a person whole. People, who live alone or single for a very long time, can find themselves detached from the social business of life. Statistics have shown that, people who are not married die much earlier than those who are in committed relationships. Do no resign to the uncertainty brought about by relationships. When you find the chance to love, you better go for it. Therefore, I cannot insist more on the need to have somebody close to you. Healthy love relationships will provide you with a shoulder to lean on. At some point in our lives, we will need that shoulder and it will make a huge difference. Another thing to gain from such relationships is pleasure. Sex is a major driving force when it comes to relationships. God designed us sexual beings for a reason and, physical needs will be met in relationships.</P><P>Love relationships bring us bundles of joy. The offspring that brightens up your life will come from relationships. Most people want to have children. Kids will grow to become important members of society and, having children is just a blessing. Relationships will offer financial support to you and, you can live in great comfort. There are so many other gains that I do not have time to mention. All in all, if you forget everything in this article, it is vital for you to keep in mind one thing. However difficult love can be, it is worth fighting for and worth having, if you do not have it, you really do not have anything. Make your relationships fun and exciting.</P></p>
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		<title>4 Words That Silently Kill Relationships…</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Sep 2010 05:23:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Sandra Christian</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[There are four words that almost NO one actually says out loud but millions of men and women sure think this about their spouse or partner. What&#8217;s underneath these four words can literally suck the life and passion out of an otherwise good relationship. That&#8217;s why we say these four words are silent relationship killers. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><P>There are four words that almost NO one actually says out loud but millions of men and women sure think this about their spouse or partner. </P><br />
<P>What&#8217;s underneath these four words can literally suck the life and passion out of an otherwise good relationship. </P><br />
<P>That&#8217;s why we say these four words are silent relationship killers. </P><br />
<P>We know this sounds dramatic and we know what you&#8217;re probably thinking&#8230; </P><br />
<P>If they&#8217;re almost never spoken, how do they kill relationships?</P><br />
<P>Good question. </P><br />
<P>Glad you asked. </P><br />
<P>They kill relationships because they represent the predominant thought one person has for another&#8211;and what isn&#8217;t spoken can be just as powerful or even more so than what is spoken.</P><br />
<P>What are these 4 dangerous words?</P><br />
<P>They are, &#8220;I don&#8217;t trust you.&#8221;</P><br />
<P>Before you think all we&#8217;re talking about is what happens because of an affair, infidelity or one or both partners cheating on each other&#8230; </P><br />
<P>We&#8217;ll tell you that you certainly might feel like that if you&#8217;ve been lied to or cheated on but there&#8217;s much more to it when it comes to those four little words&#8230;</P><br />
<P>&#8220;I don&#8217;t trust you&#8230;&#8221; </P><br />
<P>What we&#8217;re talking about is taking you a little deeper into the whole idea of trust in an intimate relationship.</P><br />
<P>The idea of &#8220;I don&#8217;t trust you&#8221; and a lack of trust can play out in a million different ways in a relationship. </P><br />
<P>For example&#8230;</P><br />
<P>*I don&#8217;t trust you to bring home your share of the money to pay our bills</P><br />
<P>*I don&#8217;t trust that you&#8217;ll be home on time for dinner as you said you would</P><br />
<P>*I don&#8217;t trust that you&#8217;ll not spend us into debt</P><br />
<P>*I don&#8217;t trust that you&#8217;ll watch the kids the way I do</P><br />
<P>*I don&#8217;t trust that you&#8217;ll do the laundry and not ruin my shirts</P><br />
<P>*I don&#8217;t trust that you&#8217;ll be open to making love with me tonight</P><br />
<P>*I don&#8217;t trust that you&#8217;ll be honest with me</P><br />
<P>You get the idea&#8230;</P><br />
<P>And if you&#8217;re honest with yourself, you can recognize where you&#8217;ve had those thoughts over and over about the person you love&#8211;we certainly have.</P><br />
<P>While these thoughts of &#8220;I don&#8217;t trust you&#8221; are pretty normal, it&#8217;s important for you to become aware of them because of how they can negatively impact your relationship.</P><br />
<P>Early in our relationship, Otto would tell Susie every now and then that she didn&#8217;t trust him in certain ways. She denied it but it turned out that when she really looked at her thoughts, it was true. </P><br />
<P>She didn&#8217;t trust him in certain ways that had nothing to do with him cheating.</P><br />
<P>But her mistrust could have driven a huge wedge between the two of us if we hadn&#8217;t talked it out.</P><br />
<P>If mistrust becomes your predominant thought about your partner, you&#8217;re automatically building walls between the two of you.</P><br />
<P>The other person feels your doubt and can withdraw or become angry, leaving the two of you with a lot that&#8217;s left that&#8217;s unsaid.</P><br />
<P>And these walls affect your communication, your openness to intimacy, and whether your love grows or dies.</P><br />
<P>One of the agreements the two of us made at the beginning of our relationship was that if we were upset with something that the other had said or done, we would talk first with him or her and not first with people outside our relationship.</P><br />
<P>That wasn&#8217;t always the case in our previous relationships and we paid the price of disconnection and the eventual end of those relationships.</P><br />
<P>We didn&#8217;t trust that our previous partners would listen to what we had to say and that we could calmly talk about whatever we needed to&#8211;so we talked to other people instead of our partners.</P><br />
<P>So what do you do if you have the thought that you don&#8217;t trust the other person to do or not do whatever it is that&#8217;s your issue&#8211;and you have good reason for your mistrust?</P><br />
<P>You may have had that experience with this person in the past and you can&#8217;t turn your back on the idea that it will probably happen again.</P><br />
<P>Or your lack of trust might have nothing to do with your partner but rather experiences you&#8217;ve had in past relationships and as you were growing up.</P><br />
<P>How can you stop saying to yourself &#8220;I don&#8217;t trust you&#8221; when you really don&#8217;t trust him or her?</P><br />
<P>If you&#8217;ve identified some places in your relationship and in yourself where you don&#8217;t trust and you don&#8217;t want to continue to allow this mistrust to come between the two of you&#8211;even something very small&#8230;</P><br />
<P>1. Identify what and who you really don&#8217;t trust. Look within for the real issues of your mistrust which may have started long before your current partner.</P><br />
<P>Take out pen and paper and write the words &#8220;I don&#8217;t trust you because&#8230;&#8221; and then keep writing anything that comes into your mind. Just keep writing and see what comes up.</P><br />
<P>2. Identify the source of your trust problem. If it turns out that you need to do some forgiving of someone in your past, remember that you are forgiving for YOU and not condoning what the person did&#8211;assuming that you are<BR>no longer being subjected to those actions anymore.</P><br />
<P>Actively choosing to no longer be tied to these wrongs that were done to you can be extremely freeing. You may need the help of a qualified therapist or coach to support you in this process.</P><br />
<P>3. In order to start trusting another person, you have to get in your mind what he or she has to do to become trustable to you. So start making your list and be specific.</P><br />
<P>4. Be courageous and talk with your partner about what&#8217;s been holding you back and ways you&#8217;ve been mistrusting him or her.</P><br />
<P>Create some agreements and plans to move from mistrust even if it&#8217;s about something very insignificant.</P><br />
<P>One of issues of trust for us has been keeping our home straightened up, especially with Otto&#8217;s 21 year old son living with us.</P><br />
<P>One of the &#8220;Magic Words&#8221; phrases that we use is &#8220;Tell me your plan for ________.&#8221; </P><br />
<P>Instead of worrying about whether whatever is in question will be put away or not., this phrase opens up communication instead of resentment.</P><br />
<P>You can find info about our &#8220;Magic Relationship Words&#8221; that are great to use in situations like these as well by going here&#8230;</P><br />
<P><BR>Our suggestion to you is to make sure you don&#8217;t allow hidden mistrust to silently kill your love for each other. </P><br />
<P>Take action and bring more love into your life.<BR></P><br />
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p> <BODY readability="20">By Jim Cunningham <IMG class="sprite s_platinum_star" title="Platinum Author" alt="Platinum Quality Author" src="http://mindchic.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/wpid-trans.gif"> <IMG alt="" src="http://ezinearticles.com/thumbnail/thumbnail_mem_pics.php?gd=2&#038;src=Jim-Cunningham_561236.jpg&#038;maxw=80"> <STRONG>Jim Cunningham</STRONG> <BR>Level: Platinum <P>Published author and in demand speaker. 30 years working with people. A true people person. Some people just have that knack. His incredibly diverse background &#8230; </P><P>How to turn your man on is a common Google search.  You may think this is solely sexual, but ignore the rumors, your man is more complicated than that.  There are several factors that make up his exciter.  The mistake women make in their approach to men is the tendency to think like a woman.  I know it seems natural for you to think like a woman, but forget that.  You got to get into his head; think like a man.  That&#8217;s where you are in luck, I am going to give you 5 turn ons for men &#8211; guaranteed to give him chills.</P><P>1. Laughing is sexy.  Guys pay attention when a woman laughs.  It can be a turn on.  It usually means you are happy.  It might say you are funny.  It may mean you like his sense of humor.  It suggests you are a fun person.  Sometimes it is how you laugh.  Caution, snorting when you laugh nullifies all that was just said about laughing being a turn on.</P><P>2. Sassy is fun.  It is playful.  It can be verbal sparring and witty.  It&#8217;s a little smart ass, but in a fun way.  A sassy woman knows how to put her man in his place in such a way that he likes it.  This woman has skill.  She says whatever she wants with a smile on her face.  Huge turn on!</P><P>3. Kissing is hot.  Please, do not forget how to kiss your man.  There is hardly anything more provocative than a woman&#8217;s lips.  The softness drives him wild.  If you are a boring kisser then take some lessons.  Use your imagination when it comes to kissing.  There&#8217;s the neck kiss, ear kiss, cheek kiss, lip kiss, slow kiss, sultry kiss, wet kiss, french kiss, eskimo kiss, and on you go.  Try this, walk up to your man, lightly put you lips on his, pause there for a moment, then walk away.  If you only knew what that would do to him.</P><P>4. A tinge of jealousy is attractive. We are not talking about psycho jealousy.  But a tinge makes him feel special.  It says you are watching out for your position.  It means you have sharp claws just beneath the surface, ready to be displayed if some nasty skank gets too close.  He likes that, trust me.</P><P>5. A compliment goes a long way.  Go ahead and tell him he has a nice butt.  He may roll his eyes at you, on the outside.  But he&#8217;ll be looking at that butt in the mirror when he gets his first chance.  That is real inside information.  Men like to be complimented.  It is not gay or metro-sexual.  It also says much about you.  Only a secure person can give another a compliment.  So say it when it comes to your mind.  We ought to be in the business of making people feel good.</P><P>Relationships are not all about men.  He ought to be reading what turns on a woman.  But for you, realizing that a man has many buttons, not just the sex button, is important.  If you are after a one night stand, this article was not for you.  But for the person interested in a true relationship, it is ok to want to make your man happy.  Go for it.</P><P>Communicating with people may be his best attribute. He has the knack. They listen, learn, and applaud. Formal education is in place, but life education makes his message real.</P><P>His incredibly diverse background brings to the table an experience that is in no way theoretical, but both practical and real. He has watched and experienced the difficulties life brings, especially to families. He has rebounded in his own life. Put all this together and be warned &#8211; His snappy, humorous, educated, passionate, lived out, and sometimes sarcastic wisdom will offend you, move you, humor you, but most of all it will direct you to what he calls LIVING FOR KEEPS.</P><P>Check it out at http://bit.ly/aTGS2F</P><P></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Since about 2000, the method of online communicating has boomed in popularity, making it so popular that it has now been integrated into our every day way of communication with friends, family, and co-workers. E-mail, video chat, and instant messaging text chat are all methods by which millions of people around the world use to [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Since about 2000, the method of online communicating has boomed in popularity, making it so popular that it has now been integrated into our every day way of communication with friends, family, and co-workers. E-mail, video chat, and instant messaging text chat are all methods by which millions of people around the world use to communicate each and every day.</p>
<p>Below are some of the reasons why online communication technology has revolutionized the way that the human race maintains relationships with each other?</p>
<p>More Efficient<br />Online communication mediums like IM chat, social media, and voice chat allows people have conversations instantly. Questions and answers can be instant, in half the time it takes to phone a co-worker or walk over to their office. Many workplaces use instant messaging every day to initiate talks between co-workers and to and from supervisors.</p>
<p>More Regularity<br />Maintaining relationships with online communication methods is easier than attempting to talk regularly by phone or in-person. Users can talk whenever their friends or co-workers are online and available, instead of finding the time to set aside to talk to someone on the phone. Regular communication is key when maintaining healthy relationships with others.</p>
<p>More Convenient<br />This goes a long with the point mentioned above. Users can converse with others via instant messenger while they are working on other projects on their computer, like reports or email. In addition, talking to multiple people at once is probably the most efficient and convenient aspect of using online communication.</p>
<p>Using regular online communication doesn&#8217;t have to cost any money. There are many free programs out there that allow for free and unlimited communication with other users.</p>
<p>Kelsey Childress is the owner of Awen Creative and is a Social Media and Internet Marketing Specialist. One of her clients, Brosix, is a two time winner in the About.com IM awards. Read more at http://blog.brosix.com/brosix-wins-best-im-feature-of-2010-in-aboutcom-im-awards/. To try a free 30-day trial of Brosix, check out http://www.brosix.com.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[To be successful in attracting, flirting and dating, you need to figure out what the people you wish to allure find attractive, simply put: &#8220;What do guys want in girls?&#8221; To find out, The Love Coach interviewed hundreds of guys about love, relationships, dating, picking up, sex and girls. - The guys liked when a [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>To be successful in attracting, flirting and dating, you need to figure out what the people you wish to allure find attractive, simply put: &#8220;What do guys want in girls?&#8221; To find out, The Love Coach interviewed hundreds of guys about love, relationships, dating, picking up, sex and girls.</p>
<p>- The guys liked when a girl had her own life and interests and focus on her own happiness. Men are attracted to girls who are smiling and happy in their own lives, because that means they will not be too dependent and needy, plus they will be more interesting</p>
<p>- Guys want girls to be more easy going about things. When she stops him from seeing his guy friend and worry too much, she is a pain. They wish for us to trust more and give some space.</p>
<p>- Don�t try to blackmail yourself to love by crying. Men hates hurting us and might stay with a girl for the wrong reasons, just because she starts crying, but that will never work out in the long run.</p>
<p>- What do guys want in terms of flirting? They love when women approach them. Most guys has low self esteem and hate rejection, so they prefer staying with their friends before &#8220;picking up&#8221;. Guys want girls to show signals at least, so they know it�s &#8220;safe&#8221;. Apparently girls can be real bitches if they get approached by someone they don�t fancy, and when standing in massive groups we are intimidating. They guys want you to come up!</p>
<p>- Also, make yourself approachable by strolling around a bit on your own, which makes it easier for him to come up to you.</p>
<p>- Don�t forget to be mysterious and hard to get, but in a fun way. Being rude is not cool, but being strong and not always in their face is sexy.</p>
<p>- Don�t come up and be too drunk though. Guys find overly tipsy ladies scary and not very attractive.</p>
<p>- So what do guys want in terms of looks? Appearance is important to most men, since they are visual by nature. It doesn�t mean they just go for super models, but do your best. It seems like guys want natural girls, who are not too dressed up and plastic.</p>
<p>Read more about this and watch the videos on: http://whatdoguyswantadvice.com/</p>
<p>Carolin Dahlman is a Swedish Love Coach, guiding people to fall in love and stay in love. She works with individuals to help them be strong, confident and happy &#8211; to be magnets for love. Her website: http://www.coaching2love.com</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Since about 2000, the method of online communicating has boomed in popularity, making it so popular that it has now been integrated into our every day way of communication with friends, family, and co-workers. E-mail, video chat, and instant messaging text chat are all methods by which millions of people around the world use to communicate each and every day.</p>
<p>Below are some of the reasons why online communication technology has revolutionized the way that the human race maintains relationships with each other?</p>
<p>More Efficient<br />Online communication mediums like IM chat, social media, and voice chat allows people have conversations instantly. Questions and answers can be instant, in half the time it takes to phone a co-worker or walk over to their office. Many workplaces use instant messaging every day to initiate talks between co-workers and to and from supervisors.</p>
<p>More Regularity<br />Maintaining relationships with online communication methods is easier than attempting to talk regularly by phone or in-person. Users can talk whenever their friends or co-workers are online and available, instead of finding the time to set aside to talk to someone on the phone. Regular communication is key when maintaining healthy relationships with others.</p>
<p>More Convenient<br />This goes a long with the point mentioned above. Users can converse with others via instant messenger while they are working on other projects on their computer, like reports or email. In addition, talking to multiple people at once is probably the most efficient and convenient aspect of using online communication.</p>
<p>Using regular online communication doesn&#8217;t have to cost any money. There are many free programs out there that allow for free and unlimited communication with other users.</p>
<p>Kelsey Childress is the owner of Awen Creative and is a Social Media and Internet Marketing Specialist. One of her clients, Brosix, is a two time winner in the About.com IM awards. Read more at http://blog.brosix.com/brosix-wins-best-im-feature-of-2010-in-aboutcom-im-awards/. To try a free 30-day trial of Brosix, check out http://www.brosix.com.</p>
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