While we certainly don’t take it personally when a person decides they don’t want to get our emails any longer…

In this case, we couldn’t help sharing a few observations and mistakes she’s making that may help and encourage you to keep moving in the direction of a jealousy-free life.

If jealousy is a problem for you in your relationship or marriage…

We HIGHLY recommend you attend this special online class we’re doing next week…

This special one-time only class is called ….

“Discover The Jealousy Cure”

It will run about 70 minutes and you can listen by phone or in front of your computer from anywhere in the world.

This is for ANYONE who wants to take know the secrets to getting rid of jealousy forever.

Learn more or sign up here… “Discover the Jealousy Cure”

To give you a sneak peak at what we’ll be covering in next week’s class, here are 3 jealousy mistakes to avoid right now…

Mistake #1– Trying to hide your jealousy

Even though you might think no one knows you’re jealous and you think you’re doing a pretty good job hiding it, it’s usually pretty obvious, especially to your partner-so trying to hide it is useless and can really back-fire on you.

Does that mean you go around announcing it to everyone, especially your partner, when it comes up for you?

Of course not.

But it’s important for you to acknowledge it to yourself that you need help in stopping your jealous thoughts and behavior–and not shove your feelings under the rug, hoping no one sees the evidence of your jealousy.

We’ve talked to many people with jealousy issues and the partner always can tell when a jealousy episode comes up.

Maybe you tighten up your face or pull back physically. Maybe you stop breathing and the fear on your face is plain for everyone to see.

Trying to hide your jealousy can back-fire on you because in trying to hide it, you are actually becoming more distant from your partner and pushing him or her away.

What you fear happening–your partner leaving you–may end up happening, not because of what you fear but because of YOUR actions to avoid it.

We’re guessing that’s not what you want, right?

While you don’t want to become a broken record about this issue…

It may be helpful for you to talk to your partner about it (if he or she is open to it) and work out some ways that he or she can support you when jealousy happens.

If you do this and you know that your partner isn’t really doing anything terribly wrong that should cause your jealousy (your jealousy came up because of what you fear will happen in the future–for example, he or she will leave–and not that you caught him or her cheating or have strong suspicions of it)…

Make sure to not get hung up on blame but rather approach your discussion with what you are willing to do to help yourself and especially what your partner might do to help you.

The point is–deal with it–don’t try to hide it.

Mistake #2–Pretending to yourself that your jealousy problem will go away by itself.

It won’t.

If jealous thoughts and behaviors come up, they are simply your bigger self trying to get your attention.

You need to either heal some thought, belief or situation that happened in your past or something that is actually happening right now that you need to look at objectively and deal with it.

If you try to push down jealous feelings and not deal with them, they will only come out in other ways–like inappropriate anger at something that has nothing to do with the event that triggered your jealousy.

Believe us when we say, the straightest route to stopping jealous thoughts and behavior is NOT pretending that if you ignore it, it will go away.

It will only get bigger.

Mistake #3–Not getting the help you need to stop your jealousy.

In our work with people who have a challenge with jealousy, one of the biggest feelings is shame.

They are ashamed and embarrassed that they are jealous and look at it as an affliction that they shouldn’t have and that they need to hide it.

Susie certainly felt this way when she was going through her jealousy challenge years ago!

If this describes you, do a mind switch right now and say to yourself something like this…

“Okay, so I’m jealous. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and I can heal it.”

Just like any change you want to make in your life, you need some help doing it.

We all need help making changes and it certainly doesn’t make you a “bad” or “weak” person if you can’t stop being jealous on your own.

In fact, not asking for help might be considered “weak.”

So, if you’re struggling with jealousy, get help and get committed to making the small changes that will help you become jealousy-free.

It’s doable–and we urge you to start right now!

If you want more of our help in stopping the jealousy in your relationship and life…

Be sure to attend the special “Discover The Jealousy Cure” class we’re doing next week that we mentioned earlier in this email

We also offer some other great resources for overcoming jealousy.

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Mistake #1: ASKING TOO MANY QUESTIONS

Lots of men worry that when they start talking to a girl, she won’t say much back. This outcome, standing there, suffering an awkward, embarrassing silence, is so much of a concern that they ask the girl question after question to avoid it.

The reason they bombard her with questions is because they think that the best way of getting and keeping the girl talking is by giving her more and more opportunities to say something, no matter what the topic happens to be.
Unfortunately, doing this sends out a very negative message. It actually shows that you’re nervous and would prefer her to do most of the talking, which often turns the woman off completely.

Mistake #2: NEVER SHUTTING UP

This is the opposite scenario to the one above, but happens for the same reason. Some men, scared that the girl they’re talking to will up and leave any second, choose to talk endlessly in an effort to keep their attention. Again, this is immediately obvious as a sign of social inexperience and nervousness.

Mistake #3: BORING HER TO DEATH

It’s not easy talking to a girl who’s beautiful, sexy and usually practically unattainable. So when a guy gets chatting to a girl he really likes, who’s hot and confident, he doesn’t want to mess it up.  After all, it might not happen again for ages!
So, in an attempt to limit the chance of saying something that might ruin the interaction and thus his chances with her, he subconsciously restricts the topics of conversation he brings up.

He talks about work, the weather, sports, current affairs, perhaps bombards her with a few questions on those subjects…and generally doesn’t push the boat out much.

Okay, so they’re 3 of the worst mistakes a guy can make when talking to a girl he likes. So let’s flip the coin and look at what he SHOULD be doing.

Flirting is an activity that can make one feel satisfied and happy, especially when the outcomes are good and the other person flirts back. It is very fun, and it takes some courage. However if it is done wrong, it can just result in heartache (if you are serious).Therefore there are mistakes to be avoided and lessons to be learned.

Do not brag about your skills and achievements, financial status or physical prowess. This will come across as arrogant, and people will think you are a snob. Besides, such things are so obvious that you do not have to voice them. If you are very fit, your body and posture will already show a lot. If you are well-to-do or rich, the clothes you wear speaks volume for itself. For other stuff such as skills, just find a time to show them off in action.

Some people may consult a friend of the other gender when they are aiming for a new flirting target. They can offer a lot of advice but do not ask them to do too much things. You will come across as weak, needy and shy. Why would shy people flirt in the first place? It is best to do everything yourself, and merely listen to your friend’s advice.

Old pick-up lines are a killer. They may be smart and good to use before a good conversation but the same lines that you use may well be used by others. Therefore, the girl would feel like she is “one of them”. It is best that you stick to being natural and skip the lines. A simple smile and introduction does fine.

When engaged in a conversation, let the conversation be balanced. Do not just talk about yourself. The other person might as well listen to a radio. Ask good questions, then listen, and then ask questions again according to the content spoken. The more a person talks to another about them, the more comfortable they would feel about them.

Avoiding such mistakes and doing things right will help you flirt better. Well, if you fail anyway, it’s not your fault because you followed the right stuff. Remember that it’s a thick jungle out there, and other special trees may be waiting for you.