In the society, we are taught about the importance of a strong family relationships. Having a strong relationship with your family enables us to go through the trials of life because family becomes a support, a pillar of strength. One of the most important skill for building a strong relationship with your family is listening. You’ve got to actively listen to each other.

Strong families often have an open communication policy, where everyone in the family feel heard and respected. To increase your listening skill, start by focusing on what family member is telling you instead of thinking about your reaction or response to what is being said.

Next, drop whatever you are doing and give your family member your full attention. This is not just being courteous but also telling them that you care for them.

Lastly, relay to them about how they feel, making sure that they know you understand. For example, say something like “I understand you don’t like your uncle. You look pretty upset. Did something happen?”

Resist giving advice or your reaction until you have fully understood what the other party is telling you.

To continue building a stronger relationship, you have to encourage your family memebers to share more about their thoughts and feelings. Everyone should be expected to express themselves in appropriate ways. When people feel heard and respected, they feel better about themselves, are more open to solving problems, and are more likely to allow others to express themselves.