Are you someone who is faced with bad holidays? Those in which some relatives from “whats-that-place” come over to visit and ask questions you least like to answer? They ask whether you have a girlfriend or if you plan to get married in a year. They ask why you are still single and laugh over it. Man! You feel like kicking them out of the door! Well, violence do not solve the problems. It just kicks them away and they will come back to you in the next holiday. There are some solutions you can apply to ease them.

The first way is to be very nice to them. Praise them. People enjoy being praised and thereafter will rarely say things to make you displeased. Praise their hairstyle even though you may not like it. Say they have a unique fashion taste. Give lots of praise. The Chinese say people will not find the overly polite person unpleasant.

“Winning by losing”. Whatever that they say to upset you, just agree with it. If you try to debate, it will never end. If they say you cannot get a girl because of your weight or other stuff, just nod or say “I agree. Since you say so, you must be right”. Your chosen “losing” ends the fight prematurely and saves you loads of time and other people’s crap.

Don’t try to dress up. Just dress the way you normally do. If you dress up just to look nicer to your relatives, it is a sign of weakness. Just forget about looking good. It also carries across another message: “I do not give a damn about you and what you are going to say to upset me.”

Initiate a positive, light bond when a new boyfriend or girlfriend comes to a holiday dinner with your family, friends and relatives. Before hand, tell whoever that is going to be present in the holiday good stuff about him or her. At the event, talk about a topic that is going to involve everyone and make it fun. Show appreciation for everything that has gone into the party and openly tell people how much you have enjoyed the event. That will show you are a nice and appreciative person.

Set up a goal or agenda for this coming holiday. Whatever the relationships in your extended family is like, if you resolve to enjoy it, no one can ever stop you.In this way, if you sense that an argument is going to go the heated way, you can give an excuse and just walk away from it. That will suit your resolve to be happy on that event. Given a not-perfect relationships from your relatives, you can only be happy if you want to be.