There are some clues to look out for that may constitute a case of verbal abuse. First, the existence of a party that is “always right”. It’s common sense that no one, not even sages, are always right. Someone who believes that he or she is always right may have a more than healthy dose of self-confidence. Or it may simply just a case that the party never accepts defeat in a argument (that is attitude problem). Either way, you will soon feel very tired just talking to the person, as you know that he/she will seize the victory of any discussion.

Secondly, observe how intense they are in a argument or discussion. You know you made great points but they just cover it with their own perspective even if you are actually right. They just want to win, they just want to be “alpha”. Lets call this the “addiction to being right”. People with this condition just will not accept being wrong and get worked up over trivia. And you will never understand why there is a need for such a big reaction over trivial matters.

Thirdly, simply use your instincts. They have been there since the earliest man and are there just to warn and protect us. Instincts serves as our weather forecast for our argumentative date. Use your instincts to predict when the thunderstorm is coming and look for ways to hide away. Excusing yourself for a leak may just do the trick.

Verbal abuse is not something to be tolerated for the sake of love. It is a serious flaw in communications and must be ironed out as soon as possible. If it turns out that your date is just a really grumpy person to which no amount of talking can get him or her out of the “rightness”, then its time to initiate a break-up to let them know really how bad it is.Hopefully, they will realise their mistakes and want you back. If they don’t, maybe its just time to let go of a dysfunctional relationship and look forward to a peaceful tomorrow.